As i listen to my ugandan music in my studio apartment i cant help but wonder, we really are the new adults.just yesterday i got to celebrate my 23rd. thank ful as always... i have grown to be what my youngerself always admired across, school ,career and just social life. how fast time flies. and ofcourse i missed you guys. how have you been? its been a while since we last checked it but you know i love you , we go way back. so grab your tea and biscuits and lets dive into 23 lessons i have caught up with over the past 23 years in no particular order ofcource; 23. the bad news is everything is temporary, the good news is everything is temporary. 22. just because it is good doesnt mean it is good for you. 21.listen to what they say, but always watch what they do 20. it always gets better, you just have to sit back and acknowledge. 19.how you treat yourself sets the tone for how society treats you. 18. any change you need is going to start with you 17. if they wanted to they would 16. always remember to stay hydrated, always 15.a person that masters their finances and sexual morality is unstoppable 14. its ok to change your mind on issues once you recieve new information 13.what ever you give importance gains importance. be careful what you fixate on 12.kindness is free, always extend it 11. always know when to leave, the party, the relation , the job anything 10.looks are infact important, when you feel good, you always perfome better. always invest in them 9.be loud about love and the ones you love because hate is always loud 8. always remember why you started 7.always set time aside to enjoy your life because calamity will always set time for itself. 6.forgive yourself for whatever past decisions you made 5.that job can and will replace you whenever they feel like, hr is not your friend. just do your job and clock out,nothing more. 4.travel, as far as you can, as much as you can 3. take pictures and record all your memories, you never know 2.be mindful of your mental health, always take time to improve it 1. no one has lived with you longer than you,put yourself first,be kind to you,spend on you. i hope one of the above speakes to you, until we meet again, stay safe xoxo collin. { picture is of nails done by tabbbachka on instagram and belong to me} disclaimer: all opinions expressed above are mine and not professional help. one is advised to seek any professional help if needed.

The warm weather is upon us and i already have all these trips and concerts lined up , outfits planned and no budget to show of it. but trust i am not new to the redeo we will get there and a time will sure be had. speaking of concerts, many of us always anticipate an outside summer. a summer where we go clubbing, raving, road trips and all those fun things we could not do in the cold but often times we end up just staying home . not that it is not fun to stay home but going out and experiencing the world and putting all your senses to the test is something i recommend we all do often. But because of lack of friends , funds or just motivation keeps us behind closed doors and i am here to share how best we can navigate that. About a year ago i had just gotten my first apartment, i was admitted to a college i loved and doing a job i adored. But i felt like i was missing something. I had always been a party person, i love a good groove and being among happy people. But where was i to start? i was in this big metropolitan city with no friends ands my google maps skills still needed polishing. I needed someone to show me where and when to go to have fun. Luckily a co worker of mine at the invited out for drinks with their boyfriend and i told them how i had never been out and that i did not know my way around the night life. They ended up spending the night showing me around and giving me the basics and just as i thought they would become my new hangout buddies, they told me how it was their last day in the city and that they where moving back to their home town. A week went by and I had to make the decision, was i going to go and try having fun by myself following the few testaments i was given or was i going to sit in my apartment and wait for a group of cool friends to come blasting music in a nissan altima to pick me up magically? So i did what any young adult with their own money and will power would do, got on my cloths and headed to the club..and here are the few lessons i picked on how to party by yourself. 1. know when to leave, you do not want to be out till the very end because it gets harder and more expensive to grab an uber and people get roudy. leave 30 minutes to an hour before. 2. do not drive to a rave, yes leave your lovely car home. not only is the parking at partys sooo shady and expensive you also have to not drink at all if you have to drive home safely. 3. DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE 4.Never let your drink out of your sight,each and every one is there for a different reason, do not trust anyone your drink should be in your hand at all time. 5. DO NOT TAKE DRINKS FROM STRANGERS, if someone wants to buy you a drink let them pay at the counter 6. make sure your phone is charged before you leave home for the club.you need to be able to use it incase of something. 7. make sure someone has your location, in mycase it was my friends thousands of miles away but atleast someone knew my whereabouts 8.always have some extra money. bonus points if its in cash 9.make some friends , is alot of people that are in the clubs by themselves. 10. dont share any personal information with anyone.. you dont have to give anyone your number or name create an allaby. 11. have fun

Hey gorgeous, did you miss me? because i sure did miss yall. its been a while since we sat down for a chat but no worries  those of us that have connected over on tiktok have seen that i have been trying with my vlogs over there. i strongly believe every creative gets that time when they start to re think their work and for me its been the past couple of months. that mixed with the blues of being and immigrant,juggling school and work.... boy it got to me but with the current state of affairs (cough cough ) i am a strong believer that we have to be grounded in community , love and self as a form of rebellion soo here i am back to my roots.... and i will not keep boring you with the obvious, so let us dive right into it. living alone is exciting as it is terrifying.... the idea of having your own space filled with plants and fragrance sounds like a dream but the reality of being by yourself is nerve wrecking so how do you strike a balance ( of sorts). its officially been a year and some days since i moved into my apartment , i remember the day like it was yesterday . i had spent way to much time online looking and on ground touring apartments looking for my next home. i remember getting a warning from my job as i would come in late because i scheduled my tours right before work. one of the greatest things about living on your own is the idea of individuality.because now everything in your place reflects you and your interests. you can tell from the rugs and china the kind of person your host is. it is also important to note that your tastes will change from now and then so you dont have to have it all figured out but below are a few chit codes for a smooth ride.

If there is a skill I should have mastered sooner it should have been living in the moment. Taking everything in enjoying ,grieving everything. 

Where do I even start, with two jobs and school my life went from 100 to negatives, its scary how you don't even notice yourself change. I haven't watched a movie in soo long, not read a novel, nor have I updated my journal..jees the last time I wrote here was in January. 

Bet we have all seen all those aesthetic videos of people taking care of their skin... and we all want in..but where do you start?  Is it for everyone?  What products should I get and from where?