the mbabazi post

Lifestyle | fashion | living

the mbabazi post

Lifestyle | fashion | living

As i listen to my ugandan music in my studio apartment i cant help but wonder, we really are the new adults.just yesterday i got to celebrate my 23rd. thank ful as always... i have grown to be what my youngerself always admired across, school ,career and just social life. how fast time flies. and ofcourse i missed you guys.
how have you been? its been a while since we last checked it but you know i love you , we go way back. so grab your tea and biscuits and lets dive into 23 lessons i have caught up with over the past 23 years in no particular order ofcource; 23. the bad news is everything is temporary, the good news is everything is temporary. 22. just because it is good doesnt mean it is good for you. 21.listen to what they say, but always watch what they do 20. it always gets better, you just have to sit back and acknowledge. 19.how you treat yourself sets the tone for how society treats you. 18. any change you need is going to start with you 17. if they wanted to they would 16. always remember to stay hydrated, always 15.a person that masters their finances and sexual morality is unstoppable 14. its ok to change your mind on issues once you recieve new information 13.what ever you give importance gains importance. be careful what you fixate on 12.kindness is free, always extend it 11. always know when to leave, the party, the relation , the job anything 10.looks are infact important, when you feel good, you always perfome better. always invest in them 9.be loud about love and the ones you love because hate is always loud 8. always remember why you started 7.always set time aside to enjoy your life because calamity will always set time for itself. 6.forgive yourself for whatever past decisions you made 5.that job can and will replace you whenever they feel like, hr is not your friend. just do your job and clock out,nothing more. 4.travel, as far as you can, as much as you can 3. take pictures and record all your memories, you never know 2.be mindful of your mental health, always take time to improve it 1. no one has lived with you longer than you,put yourself first,be kind to you,spend on you. i hope one of the above speakes to you, until we meet again, stay safe xoxo collin.
{ picture is of nails done by tabbbachka on instagram and belong to me} disclaimer: all opinions expressed above are mine and not professional help. one is advised to seek any professional help if needed.
The warm weather is upon us and i already have all these trips and concerts lined up , outfits planned and no budget to show of it. but trust i am not new to the redeo we will get there and a time will sure be had. speaking of concerts, many of us always anticipate an outside summer. a summer where we go clubbing, raving, road trips and all those fun things we could not do in the cold but often times we end up just staying home . not that it is not fun to stay home but going out and experiencing the world and putting all your senses to the test is something i recommend we all do often. But because of lack of friends , funds or just motivation keeps us behind closed doors and i am here to share how best we can navigate that.
About a year ago i had just gotten my first apartment, i was admitted to a college i loved and doing a job i adored. But i felt like i was missing something. I had always been a party person, i love a good groove and being among happy people. But where was i to start? i was in this big metropolitan city with no friends ands my google maps skills still needed polishing. I needed someone to show me where and when to go to have fun. Luckily a co worker of mine at the invited out for drinks with their boyfriend and i told them how i had never been out and that i did not know my way around the night life. They ended up spending the night showing me around and giving me the basics and just as i thought they would become my new hangout buddies, they told me how it was their last day in the city and that they where moving back to their home town. A week went by and I had to make the decision, was i going to go and try having fun by myself following the few testaments i was given or was i going to sit in my apartment and wait for a group of cool friends to come blasting music in a nissan altima to pick me up magically? So i did what any young adult with their own money and will power would do, got on my cloths and headed to the club..and here are the few lessons i picked on how to party by yourself.
1. know when to leave, you do not want to be out till the very end because it gets harder and more expensive to grab an uber and people get roudy. leave 30 minutes to an hour before. 2. do not drive to a rave, yes leave your lovely car home. not only is the parking at partys sooo shady and expensive you also have to not drink at all if you have to drive home safely. 3. DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE 4.Never let your drink out of your sight,each and every one is there for a different reason, do not trust anyone your drink should be in your hand at all time. 5. DO NOT TAKE DRINKS FROM STRANGERS, if someone wants to buy you a drink let them pay at the counter 6. make sure your phone is charged before you leave home for the club.you need to be able to use it incase of something. 7. make sure someone has your location, in mycase it was my friends thousands of miles away but atleast someone knew my whereabouts 8.always have some extra money. bonus points if its in cash 9.make some friends , is alot of people that are in the clubs by themselves. 10. dont share any personal information with anyone.. you dont have to give anyone your number or name create an allaby. 11. have fun
Hey gorgeous, did you miss me? because i sure did miss yall. its been a while since we sat down for a chat but no worries 
those of us that have connected over on tiktok have seen that i have been trying with my vlogs over there. i strongly believe every creative gets that time when they start to re think their work and for me its been the past couple of months. that mixed with the blues of being and immigrant,juggling school and work.... boy it got to me but with the current state of affairs (cough cough ) i am a strong believer that we have to be grounded in community , love and self as a form of rebellion soo here i am back to my roots.... and i will not keep boring you with the obvious, so let us dive right into it. living alone is exciting as it is terrifying.... the idea of having your own space filled with plants and fragrance sounds like a dream but the reality of being by yourself is nerve wrecking so how do you strike a balance ( of sorts). its officially been a year and some days since i moved into my apartment , i remember the day like it was yesterday . i had spent way to much time online looking and on ground touring apartments looking for my next home. i remember getting a warning from my job as i would come in late because i scheduled my tours right before work. one of the greatest things about living on your own is the idea of individuality.because now everything in your place reflects you and your interests. you can tell from the rugs and china the kind of person your host is. it is also important to note that your tastes will change from now and then so you dont have to have it all figured out but below are a few chit codes for a smooth ride.
 1.buy all your essentials prior to moving. it makes everything much more easier, make lists of things you are using in your day to day and start purchasing them prior.
 2.try to know your neighbours this one is tricky and be caucious depending on where you are but the fact that you live alone its important that the people closets to you foster some sort of relationship so that you (a) get more comfortable (b) get to know where to head incase anything arises. 
3. develope routines because you are on your own its very easy to forget to do some thing, there where times i forgot to turn the lock because i am used to having someone else double check it before we sleep. routines helps you go through the basics and a good idea of what to add in there are checking on your locks, stoves and sockets. 
4. share your location with someone the amount of times i have made sure my location was on before i left my house for a night out are numberless,i always make sure someone knows where i am headed to (sometimes i do so by posting on my private stories) 
5.prepare a head of the seasons if you live in an area that gets very strong winds,or floods or even fires during a specific period of time you have to know that you are no exception. try to have some measures taken and this is where meeting your neighbours comes into play. they have probably known and tried a few tricks and they may be able and willing to share. 6.try to set up an emergency / savings account i know it is a priviledge with the current economic state with many living pay check to paycheck but if you can set up an account with funds you never touch until you really have to. 
7.yes they were right, cooking is better than eating out. you heard me.
 8.dont forget to change your address on all your important documents so that you never miss any of your mail and important documentation
 9, do not and i repeat do not just share your address with anyone or online, that is a great security concern. protect it as much as you can 
10. have fun with it,yes sometimes you will be up an night feeling lonely but others you are setting up a rack for your new plants or trying a new recipe with your new appliance.... just have fun with it and go with the flow.. disclaimer; all views expressed are my own and come from my own experience and are not professional advice. pictures and illustrations belong to their owners.
If there is a skill I should have mastered sooner it should have been living in the moment. Taking everything in enjoying ,grieving everything. 
Someone I personally know that possesses this so easily is kelly and I
always loved that about them don't know why I didn't  deploy it for my own sake. 




I was always either worried of the past or the future and in that by the time I wanted to celebrate small and huge wins they had passed . Always made me feel like I was chasing after wind but lately  I have been taping into the power of letting things be . And boy has that been a saving grace . Live right now, its what you have...sounds so simple yet so infinite. 

One of the ways to achieve this for me has been extending the grace I give others to myself. 
You can't pour from an empty cup. Feel yourself with so much love ,grace and joy that it overflows into those around you.
The results..... astounding. 
For the first time ever I actually enjoyed my birthday (I usually careless).
I feel better about myself and it keeps going.
How I pray we could all tap into this exciting journey. 
Where do I even start, with two jobs and school my life went from 100 to negatives, its scary how you don't even notice yourself change. I haven't watched a movie in soo long, not read a novel, nor have I updated my journal..jees the last time I wrote here was in January. 

And I wonder why I feel lost? No .. its time to re introduce myself to things to ignite happiness in myself.  But one of the problems is I don't even know where to start, I am in this big city and the only people I know are my co workers and class mates.. but I have had enough and I am determined to make it work..

Started off by accepting an invitation by socialites media group to the grand opening of THE READING ROOM a relaxation  lounge with premium liquor and live band in the west loop. All I had  to do was clear my schedule and see whats up. This would be my chance to move out. Meet some interesting people,  and ofcourse have a few margaritas, 

When I say I officially have a new favorite hangout place I am not even joking,the vibes are immaculate... the security was inviting and the margaritas were doing the doing things.....its honestly  the place for me to be Friday evening...
Specia shoutout to Matthew the manager of the place for showing out and being such an amazing host.

Xoxo,
Collin.
Bet we have all seen all those aesthetic videos of people taking care of their skin... and we all want in..but where do you start?  Is it for everyone?  What products should I get and from where?
Well lucky for you kelly and I spent a good amount of our covid lock down formulating and setting  up martson skincare and over  the past couple of years we have spent time modifyingformulas and educating ourselves on natural  skincare ,its uses how its best made and ofcourse what you should and should not do and will be gladly sharing them here today. 
1. You don't actually need a huge ton of products to have clear skin.

Most of the products people are using are for selfcare and pampering more than skincare itself. 
As much as its fun and relaxing they aren't that essential. 
Your skin needs to be clean and moisturized and that's it.

Lucky for you the Venus bar from martson skincare is great with that.

2. Some people just have naturally clear skin.
Yes just like other aspects of life skin texture is also coherently different from person to person. 
Some of us naturally have clear skin whilst others share a more course texture. Needless to say that all skin textures are beautiful and finding out where you lie may be great in discovering what products would be perfect for you.

3. Expensive products are the efficient products. 
I genuinely want whomever planted this idea in our minds arrested because corporations have taken it soo well that we end up spending hundreds of dollars on products thinking the more costly the better 
The only and major reason behind pricing and choice of what ever products should be the raw materials used. 
Natural and handmade products tend to be a little on the costly side.  
But martson skincare is dedicated to offering affordable yet feasible solutions to skincare with simple natural products. 

4.skincare is only for woman .
Unless men luck the biggest body organ of them all ( which is skin) then skincare is not for them.
Can't express how glad I feel seeing men taking care of their selves be it mentally or physically. 

Disclaimer;

All views are mine,pictures belong to their owners, 

You can grab martson skincare officially at our website and or instagram
Xoxo



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